After your baby's been born, there are going to be times where you will feel more than a little bit stressed. Whether it is concerns about their health, their sleep, or the temperature, you will feel a lot of anxiety, especially with the lack of sleep. One of the anxieties that can cause problems that you don't need, is the immediate family. Of course, you are going to be relying on a lot of immediate family members to help but the very outset, like your parents, but there are some family members that might outstay their welcome, or cause issues when they don't mean to. For example, if you've just got the baby to sleep after 5 desperate hours of trying, and your meddling Aunt rings the doorbell, you are going to want to wring their neck. With that in mind, how can you deal with difficult relatives after your child's birth?
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Family Matters: Dealing With Difficult Relatives After Your Child's Birth
It's far better for you to say upfront how you're feeling, and that you're not in the mood for visitors. On the other hand, you might get into a routine where you will know when your baby sleeps, at which point, if you're feeling fresh enough, they can come by and help. Honesty is always the best policy.
Give Them A Duty If They Really Want To Help
Instead of them coming into your home and taking up valuable space on the couch, if they really want to help, give them something to do. You might find that you've run out of clean clothes, either for you or the baby, in which case ask them to do some laundry, or if you actually don't have enough clothing for them, ask them to have a look online for some cute boy newborn clothes, which they will be more than happy to do. Also, it could very well be that they will want to pay for a few items, which is a lifesaver at this point.
Point Them Towards The Kitchen
You can't be waiting on them hand and foot, especially with the lack of sleep. And it'll be impossible to keep on top of the cleaning duties, so if you have family members hanging around that want to help, point them towards the kitchen so they could do a few dishes, or make themselves (and you) a coffee. It's not your place to ensure that they are comfortable.
It's a very delicate subject, because family members only want to help, but there are times when they will impose. It's at this point that you can either be honest in how you feel, or you can make the most of them wanting to be around. There will be times that you will need an extra pair of hands, but also it'll only be your parents that you want to have round. If the cavalry comes, it's at this point it becomes very stressful indeed. But no matter how sleep deprived you are, it's important to remember that they're only trying to help. In which case, make the most of them wanting to be helpful, but don't be afraid to kick them out when they've outstayed their welcome. The priority is your baby and you.
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